The thing with “laid back” dating is that the spark is usually over after sex and the normal life kicks in.
I belong to the “passionate” kind of people who’d shake you to the core of your being at first, sort of like two stars when they collide in this vast universe. That unlimited energy which seems impossible (for now), is emitted from that coming together of two celestial beings i.e. you and I.
Anyone who is like “been there, done that” is totally out of my league. They have failed and stopped believing in themselves.
If you can still bring yourself to be confused like hell (while putting on your lipstick) at the possibility of seeing a totally brand new and a unique individual, I think you carry some spark that only needs a little dry wood (not a soaked, old and totally useless wood like those laid backs).