A blogger recently posted this on her page;
The only way to win with a toxic person is NOT to play!!
I had no idea what (or who) she’s talking about until I Googled “toxic personality” to find this;
Signs You’re Surrounded by a Toxic Person: You dread (or fear) being around them. You’re exhausted or you feel angry while you’re with them or after your interaction. You feel bad or ashamed about yourself.
First, I wondered why is there a need to win or lose anything from anybody?
And then, even after you have a reason, why are you playing or not playing at all?
Human brain is the kind of super computer that can make billions (actually 1 exaFLOP or a billion billion calculations per second)) of calculations in the blink of an eye. No machine has been yet invented to match it in any form or shape.
How does this fact about a human brain connect with the original quote of hers (about toxic people)?
Oh well, its simple. What I am about to describe is perfectly visualized by this scene from the 1999 movie “Matrix”;
Don’t worry about sci-fi theatrics in it, but closely watch how he perceives everything in a “paused” moment and handles it so effortlessly.
That’s the power of human brain.
How can you use that against toxic people? Well, first of all, their own brain has been telling them that they are the winners since most decide to either run away from them or simply opt not be family/friends/neighbors or acquaintances to them.
I don’t run, nor do I decide to get estranged from them. I simply shoot them straight between their weakness or self-hatred and try to bring some sense back (or their beauty and/or childhood innocence) to them. Whether I succeed or not, I don’t even care. I made my difference and its actually they who lost their game at my hands. Had I decided not to play like the original author suggested, they’d still be living in their own la la land.
People might be toxic, very toxic. But only to their own ugly selves, not to the rest of us.