Psychology of Cheating – You Know I’m No Good by Amy Winehouse


Before I start chiming in, I’d like to refer to an interesting comment about the lyrics;

Comment by crabbygrrl

I think the middle of the second verse is — Run out to meet you . . . chips and pitta . . . you say “were we married?” . . . cuz you’re not bitter

I think “Kyomara” is right on about the first verse. But the second verse I see this way — she’s temporarily separated from the guy in the first verse and when she’s with an old boyfriend she can’t get off unless she thinks about the “first verse” guy. She goes out to meet “first verse” guy for a bite to eat and he has finally forgiven her infidelity. He says, hey, it’s not like we were married and you broke our wedding vows so I guess I can get over it. She swears she’ll be faithful from this point on (There will be none of him no more) because she was so heartbroken about their break up (I cried for you on the kitchen floor).

In the third verse, they go away on a trip. Everything’s going great. They are getting along just like they used to. Then he notices her carpet burn and realizes she’s been at it again with another guy. He shrugs, like it doesn’t matter. He expected this from her and she doesn’t mean that much to him anyway. The fact that he doesn’t care, or pretends he doesn’t care, wounds her deeply.

I agree with “bald_head_ted.” Part of her sorrow and regret in this song stems from knowing she might have had a future with this guy but for her self-destructive infidelity. She truly loves the guy; she just can’t seem to stop cheating.

And I think she really does feel horrible for her actions, but she tries to dodge a little of the blame by saying “You know that I’m no good.” That is, the guy knew what he was getting into.

Song Lyrics:

Meet you downstairs in the bar and heard
Your rolled up sleeves and your skull t-shirt
You say, “Why did you do it with him today?”
And sniff me out like I was Tanqueray

‘Cause you’re my fella, my guy
Hand me your Stella and fly
By the time I’m out the door
You tear me down like Roger Moore

I cheated myself
Like I knew I would
I told ya I was troubled
You know that I’m no good

Upstairs in bed with my ex-boy
He’s in the place, but I can’t get joy
Thinking of you in the final throes
This is when my buzzer goes

Run out to meet your chips and pitter
You say when we’re married ’cause you’re not bitter
There’ll be none of him no more
I cried for you on the kitchen floor

I cheated myself
Like I knew I would
I told ya I was troubled
You know that I’m no good

Sweet reunion, Jamaica and Spain
We’re like how we were again
I’m in the tub, you’re on the seat
Lick your lips as I soak my feet

Then you notice little carpet burn
My stomach drops, and my guts churn
You shrug, and it’s the worst
To truly stuck the knife in first

I cheated myself
Like I knew I would
I told ya I was troubled
You know that I’m no good
I cheated myself
Like I knew I would
I told ya I was troubled
Yeah, ya know that I’m no good

Psychology of Cheating

After having someone cheat on me I wanted to find out the reason on my own without having to do anything with that particular individual or situation. This song and the comment by crabbygrrl helped me a lot to get to the bottom of it especially when she said;

And I think she really does feel horrible for her actions, but she tries to dodge a little of the blame by saying “You know that I’m no good.” That is, the guy knew what he was getting into.

Unfortunately in a hurry, we make some wrong decisions with wrong people (like the one she pointed out) and end up being confused or heartbroken. I think before falling for anyone, we should give that individual enough time from a safe distance (an arm’s length from our heart).

This happens when we assume this whole world is full of messed up individuals, hence we have no choice but to go for the lesser evil individual. That is totally wrong. If you are good, you should never settle for anybody less. There are definitely good people out there and its only a matter of time you’d stumble upon someone awesome.

Sex does complicate things and its best to wait until afterwards when the heart and mind speak the same language to your soul. Separating sex from feelings is quite a difficult thing and I suppose that’s where one ends up like the twisted soul (the cheating type) which she refers to, after thinking you are expert at the game of having sex without feelings.

Love is a far far better feeling than those few minutes (or hours) of sexual rendezvous with confused souls (or must I say zombie bodies) out there.


Courtesy:

https://songmeanings.com/songs/view/3530822107858634212/

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